I thought you'd might be interested to know that I got McDonald's yesterday! Unfortunately, I had taken out some ground beef because I had intended to cook last night (Hamburger Helper is staple in our pantry), and I forgot to put it back in to the fridge before we went to bed. I woke up at 5:30 this morning with a slight panic, because I had just realized what I had done, but it was too late.
Still not sure how I remembered at 5:30am while dead asleep.
Needless to say, the ground beef is now in the trash can. It is very sad, because ground beef is a precious thing in our house since we use it so much, but we must move on.
So I guess we will be eating chicken tonight. Unless my husband decides to take me out... ;)
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Chris and I volunteer at a local church in the children's ministry. I used to work there last year (which is the hardest but the most rewarding job I have ever had!), but I have been involved as a volunteer for quite a few years now. I'm so excited that this Sunday we will officially join and call it our church home, especially since we have been in this 'church-limbo' for so long. Floating between churches, even if they we either mine or his childhood church, just didn't feel like our own. Finally, we have 'our' church. I'm just beyond excited about this!!
Chris helps with the tech part of the Wednesday night program and I help with the worship. I love getting there early so I can have some time to talk to this amazing group of women that are so real and so encouraging, you just can't help but want to be around them. At least I can't.
One of the women, whom Chris and I are close to her and her family, told me one of the best pieces of advice, which I have heard before, but she just put it into a whole different perspective.
'Don't talk bad about your husband to anyone, no matter what. While you will wake up the next day and may forget that anything was wrong, the person you gossiped to about your husband will not forget so easily and may change their opinion about him.'
Wow. Just... Wow.
I have heard this advice before in other books and different blogs, but I have never heard it like this. I know you want to take opportunities to build your husband up, whether or not he hears it. But to think that what you say could stain his reputation to someone? That's very strong and so convicting.
Now I'm not saying I go and gossip about my husband and de-grade him to anyone by any means! I love my husband very much and couldn't imagine life without him by my side. But he's not perfect. I'm not perfect. And when things are not perfect, we like to share with others why they are not perfect.
I admit, I may have vented a little about how hard it is to understand Chris and the way he thinks. And I may have shared that we have had a couple of fights recently. There's a possibility that I have stated that I just don't always know what to do to help him understand the way I feel as well. But I'm a woman, that's what I do!
But not anymore. Well, I'm going to try to not do it anymore.
I am all for confiding in someone who knows you and your spouse very well about your hardships and seeking wisdom and advice, but just venting about it to whoever will listen is gossip and it's destructive. My husband is too valuable to me to do that. He means too much to me to risk his respect just for me to get my feelings out.
After this piece of advice was given to me, I started re-evaluating my relationship with Chris. I cannot promise you that, even after my revelation, I have been the wife my husband needs and desires, but I have become aware of the wife I need to, no, have to be for Chris, and there is no longer an excuse for being anything less.
Although we've only been married for a little over a month, I feel like I have already grown as a wife. I definitely do not claim to have this 'wifey' thing under control (I did let an entire pound of meat spoil and go to waste), but I do understand what being a Godly, respectable, supporting wife looks like, and I hope and pray that I can be a beacon of that to all I come in contact with.
This is one of my favorite picture of my husband and I (taken by our sweet friend, Meg). I feel like the way I am looking at Chris in this picture is the way I always have: out of absolute love and adornment. But let's be honest, it isn't always shown on the exterior of me. I don't want anyone to ever think that they way I looked at Chris here is not the way I look at him now, and giving them a reason to assume that is devastating to me. I never want to tarnish this moment with the stain of disrespect for my husband, and from this day forward, I will do my best to love my husband beyond the frustrations and imperfections. I will respect my husband enough to not give someone a reason to change their opinion of him
Isn't he just so darn good looking in this picture? I am such a lucky girl, and I sure do love him so!!
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